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The "Secrets" of Compatability

Dear Neil:  My fiancé  and I are fighting a lot with each other, and that’s thrown our wedding—scheduled for later this year—into serious question.  Is there a secret for how to know if we can be compatible with each other?  We have a lot of common interests and similar tastes in music, Italian food and gourmet...

Personal Power Doesn't Require Anger

Dear Neil:  Thanks for your recent column on anger.  What’s been fascinating for me is to realize how ill-equipped I am to having any reaction other than anger or feeling like a doormat.  Learning to rein in anger is freeing, but if people who have relied on anger for power don’t have any other readily available choices...

How to Destroy Your Relationship

Through the years as a marriage therapist, I have been asked a countless number of times:  “We were so wild about each other.  So much in love.  So passionate.  How could we have possibly grown this cold and distant from each other?”

There are a variety of answers to the above question.  Below are the top ways...

Quiz: What Grade Would You Get in Your Relationship?

If you were to give yourself a grade for how effective, how responsive and how loving you behave in your relationship, what would that grade be?

Better yet, break the above question down into smaller segments.  On an A B C D F scale, using (+) or (– ) to more fully adjust your grade, what grade in your relationship would you give...

Are You Walled Off?

Do you have a guarded heart?  Do you have a wall around your heart that prohibits genuine intimacy, even with the people you love and feel closest to?

Take this quiz to find out:

  • Do you get angry a lot with your mate, even over small things?
  • Do you tend to be mistrusting, only to discover that your mistrust...